No matter who you are, falling down from time to time is normal. Mistakes are part of being human. Theyβre essential to help us growβfrom learning to walk as toddlers to navigating school, personal relationships, and the workplace.Β
Ultimately, itβs how you pick yourself up that matters.Β
Mistakes may be normal, but it rarely feels good when they happen. Making mistakes at work is especially tough because our jobs are important to usβparticularly if we (and our families) rely on our income for food and shelter. The stakes feel exceptionally high, which can make us sensitive to even the smallest errors.Β
But itβs not realistic to be perfect all the time. Youβll make mistakes at some point, and thatβs ok. The vast majority of the time, mistakes arenβt as huge as we initially think they are. As long as you acknowledge errors and work to correct them (instead of hiding what happened), mistakes are a learning opportunity.Β
Itβs not the end of the world when you mess upβitβs an opportunity to learn, grow, and improve. The real mistake is trying to cover up errors instead of telling someone and acknowledging what happened.Β Β
Burnout dan impostor syndrome secara historis telah dipelajari sebagai dua fenomena terpisah. Dalam laporan ini, kami menghubungkan berbagai hal untuk membantu pemimpin memperlambat burnout dan meningkatkan retensi pegawai.
When you try to be perfect, itβs hard to get things done. You might constantly double-check your work, struggle to delegate tasks, and procrastinate when youβre afraid of making mistakes. Furthermore, studies suggest that extreme perfectionism is bad for your mental health, putting you at a higher risk for burnout, job dissatisfaction, and depression.Β
Being a perfectionistβor managing oneβcan be tough. But you can combat the negative effects of perfectionism by normalizing mistakes and talking openly about how to learn from them. This is part of a concept called psychological safety: a belief that your work environment is safe for interpersonal risksβlike speaking up with questions, concerns, or mistakes.Β
Ultimately, you can still have high standards without trying to be perfect. And if you think about it, you donβt actually want perfect employees, you want solid team processes that help make work as good as it can be. Thatβs the reason newspapers have editors and copyeditors. They donβt expect a first draft to be perfectβinstead, theyβve created a process to provide feedback, improve the initial draft, and nail the finished product.Β
Just messed up? No sweat. Hereβs how to process the situation, take action, and move on:Β
Itβs ok to feel frustrated, anxious, and maybe even embarrassed when you make a mistake. But while those emotions are normal, they can stand in the way of good decision-making. Thatβs why itβs important to process your feelings first, so you can take action later with a level head.Β
Take a minute to ride out whatever youβre feeling. Take a deep breath, step away from work, go for a walk, or talk to a trusted friend. Eventually your negative feelings will pass, leaving you much more capable of dealing with the situation.Β Β
When you make a mistake, the most important thing is to tell someone before the error gets bigger. Mistakes are rarely as bad as we think, and trying to cover things up can make the situation much worse. Instead, let your manager or a trusted team member know what happened. Itβs ok if you donβt have a solution right nowβthey can help you find one.Β
Taking ownership of mistakes is hard, but psychologists agree that learning to deal with admitting faults is essential to sustaining relationships and growing (personally or professionally) in the long run. Ultimately, admitting mistakes doesnβt make you look weakβit actually demonstrates that you have enough strength to be vulnerable and objective about your actions. As a result, your team can trust you to do the right thing in the future, even if it means admitting you messed up.Β
Once youβve taken a breather and told someone about your mistake, sometimes you need to acknowledge and apologize for what happened. This doesnβt mean you totally messed up or that youβre bad at your jobβit just means that something went wrong and you learned from it.Β
When apologizing for a mistake, donβt overdo it. Avoid making excuses, justifications, or talking badly about yourself. Be upfront and polite insteadβall you need to say is something like: βHi (coworker), I made this mistake, and Iβm working on correcting it. Iβm sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused on your end.βΒ
A big part of making mistakes is learning to bounce back and fix them. If your mistake is something you can fix, make an action plan to remedy the situation. For example, if you forgot to invite a key stakeholder to your project kickoff meeting, send them your meeting notes so they can provide feedback on action items and decisions that were made during the sync.
Not all mistakes can be fixed, and thatβs ok too. At the end of the day, the important thing is to learn from your error and make a game plan to avoid the same mistake in the future. To continue with the example above, you could resolve to complete a stakeholder analysis at the start of every project to ensure youβre looping in the right people at the right time.
Making mistakes takes an emotional toll, and itβs important to take care of yourself and ensure that youβre dealing with negative feelings in a healthy way. Stick to your normal routine rather than working overtime, and avoid isolating yourself from others because of anxiety, embarrassment, or frustration. Take time to step away from work every day and focus on your personal life. Go for a walk outside, cook a healthy meal, spend time with friends or familyβall these actions can help take the focus away from your mistake and help you realize that work is just one facet of your life.Β
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Still feeling down about your mistake? It happens, and youβre not alone in feeling anxious. The thing is, your mistake probably isnβt as bad as you think, and getting some perspective can help you deal with any residual anxiety.Β
When people make mistakes, they often fall into one of these βthinking trapsββnegative thought patterns that make it hard to get perspective and see a situation for what it really is. If youβre struggling with anxiety about a mistake, take a look at this list to see which βthinking trapsβ you might be experiencing.Β
Black and white thinking: Seeing things as either 100% good or 100% bad.Β
Example: I made a big mistake and canβt accomplish a certain deliverable. Now my project is ruined.Β
Solution: Look for shades of gray. Situations are rarely either perfect or totally worthlessβtry to find at least one silver lining.Β Β
Overgeneralizing: Viewing a mistake as a never-ending pattern of defeat.Β
Example: I missed another deadline. Iβll never be able to complete projects on time, and nobody will trust me again.Β
Solution: Remember past successes or positive events. What are things youβve accomplished in the past that youβre proud of?Β
Mind reading: Assuming that other people will think about you negatively because of your mistake.Β
Example: I was nervous during a presentation and misspoke. Now people will think Iβm incapable or unprofessional.Β
Solution: Remember that youβre not at the center of the universe, and people have other things to do than sitting around thinking negative thoughts about you. When other people made mistakes in the past, was it such a big deal?Β
Emotional reasoning: Assuming that if you feel something is true, it must be true.
Example: I forgot to bring my notes to a client meeting and got completely flustered. Now Iβll never get the promotion I wanted, and I canβt show my face at work tomorrow.Β
Solution: Get some distance. How many times in the past has the worst-case scenario actually happened? If 0=breaking a fingernail and 100=nuclear holocaust, what rating would you give the event youβre dealing with right now? Will you remember this mistake in a week, a month, or a year?Β
Catastrophizing: Imagining the worst-case scenario and thinking you wouldnβt be able to deal with it.
Example: I just bombed a job interview, and my job search is dragging on. Now Iβm never going to find a new position, and Iβll lose my apartment when my savings run out.Β Β
Solution: Think of all the resources you have available to youβpeople, places, or things. Whatβs the first thing you would do if the worst happened? Then what?
Personalizing: Blaming one person (like yourself) for a situation that has many causes.Β
Example: My initiative failed because Iβm bad at project management. I should have managed stakeholders better to make sure tasks were completed on time.Β
Solution: Remember that nobody is perfect. Focus on creating solutions rather than placing blame.Β
As a manager, the way you act when team members mess up is important. It sets the tone for your team culture and can help your team feel psychologically safeβso employees feel comfortable taking risks without being held back by an overwhelming fear of failure.Β
Hereβs what to do when one of your direct reports makes a mistake:Β
Donβt place blame: When someone owns up to their mistake, avoid placing blame on them and telling them it was their fault. Rather, thank them for coming to you, and focus on what happened instead. Help the team member identify the steps you need to take as a team to fix the situation. The same goes if someone owns up to their blunder immediatelyβshow compassion and focus on the issue rather than whoβs responsible.
Be curious: Instead of making assumptions about what happened, ask questions to understand your team memberβs perspective. Practice active listening to internalize what theyβre saying and let them know youβre paying attention. That way, you can understand the full picture and get all the information you need to help your team member resolve the mishap.Β
Communicate in person or over video: When someone on your team makes a mistake, itβs important to visually demonstrate that youβre not upset or angry. Things can get lost in translation over Slack or email, so itβs better to speak face-to-face if you can to avoid miscommunication.
Let team members try to figure things out on their own: Mistakes are a natural part of delegating, and itβs ok to let team members make and fix small mistakes on their ownβeven if you see the mistake coming ahead of time. Instead of jumping in to correct the error, let your employee try to figure things out first. This helps them learn from the situation and build the problem-solving skills and self-confidence they need to resolve their own mistakes in the future. It also demonstrates trust and shows your team member that one slip-up doesnβt make them less valuable.Β
Make it a learning experience: After giving your team member a chance to resolve their mistake, provide feedback to help them learn from the situation and avoid repeating the same mistake in the future. If youβre comfortable, it can also help to share how youβve dealt with major mistakes in the past. This helps build trust and demonstrates that mistakes are a normal part of growth.Β
If mistakes repeat after the first time, brainstorm solutions: When the same mistakes happen over and over again, there may be an underlying issue or behavior thatβs keeping your employee from performing at their best. Brainstorm what habits or changes could help prevent the issue in the futureβlike helping an employee set up calendar alerts if theyβre frequently late to meetings.
Mistakes are a part of life, and itβs not realistic to avoid them altogether. Instead, focus on creating solid team processes that allow for misjudgments and errors to occur. For example, instead of trying to produce a perfect product on the first try, create a process that allows you to iterate and improve your product over time. That way, your team can move quickly, take risks, and stay adaptable in the face of change.
Burnout dan impostor syndrome secara historis telah dipelajari sebagai dua fenomena terpisah. Dalam laporan ini, kami menghubungkan berbagai hal untuk membantu pemimpin memperlambat burnout dan meningkatkan retensi pegawai.